How to control the good and bad thoughts and emotions going on in the mind?

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How to control the good and bad thoughts and emotions going on in the mind?  Emotions arise from thinking, but emotions are deeper and more effective than thoughts and resolutions. To keep the mind happy and life successful, always having good feelings and good wishes towards everyone is the best management of emotions. In practical terms, no matter what feelings someone has, we should behave with good intentions towards him. His behavior or conversation should not influence , rather we should behave with him in such a way that our good conduct becomes effective on him. It is possible that his behavior may change,  because positive energy is more powerful than negativity. If we are disturbed by the unfair behavior of others and misbehave with them, then understand that our positive power has been defeated. 

Expectations increase dissatisfaction !!

You must have often heard someone around you saying that such a person did not live up to their expectations or he is very disappointed with such a thing.
There are some people who start expecting from themselves beyond their capabilities and then when they are not able to fulfill expectations then they start being unhappy with themselves. It means to say that the heavy burden of expectations snatches away the happiness of human beings. Whether those expectations are from someone else or from yourself. But when we set our expectations with reality in mind , disappointment is rarely encountered. In fact , the happiness that suddenly happens when something good happens,it doesn't meet the expected things, because on the occasion of sudden happiness, you would not have set your expectations. Don't expect impractical things from anyone.

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  1. Mis aspiraciones son con los pies en el suelo, mis proyectos factibles, con un esfuerzo complementario pero realizables. A los demás les pido poco, conque no se interpongan me conformo. Un abrazote

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  2. Sometimes is wrong to have high expectations and when things don't happen, people are frustrated, is better live simply being happy with what with we already have

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  3. Una vez me dijo una amiga mía que es psicóloga que las expectativas eran dañinas. Comprendí que la desilusión al no verse cumplidas eran un precio demasiado alto a pagar. Desde entonces intento no agarrarme a ellas, sino más bien a la posibilidad de que pueda ser. Besos :D

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  4. As expectativas sobre outro alguém devem ser sempre moderadas. Assim, caso exista deceção, essa, será sempre menor
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    Deixando votos de uma Páscoa muito Feliz, extensivos à sua família, e mais pessoas, que estejam em seu coração.
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    Pensamentos e Devaneios Poéticos
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  5. Quando esperamos muito, podemos por vezes nos decepcionar. Melhor é ir com calma...
    beijos FELIZ PÁSCOA! chica

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  6. I think in everybody's life there is a moment of waking up from to much expectations.
    It's better to be sooner...
    And referring to ourselves, being more gentle it's more 'productive', generating a happier and healthier life.
    Beautiful and useful thoughts! Thank you!
    And an amazing image!
    Happy Easter full of joy and health with your beloved ones!

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  7. In todays world, especially young generation's expectations are very very high and Unfortunatelly they increase their dissatisfaction. They are mostly unhappy.

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  8. Creo que tienes razón cuando dices 🗣️ 👤 👂 en tu post 📜 que no es bueno crearte falsas o poco realistas espectativas con respecto a otras personas, porque en ese caso, la decepción 😥 esta asegurada.

    Me gusta tu blog 📜, das consejos muy sabios y hablas de cosas que deberían ser obvias para todos, pero a veces las olvidamos. 😉

    Un abrazo ❤️ en la distancia

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  9. Yes! I have to agree with this! Sometimes, it's better to not have expectations! Have a lovely weekend!
    PerlaGiselle | iamperlita.com
    ♥ | INSTAGRAM

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  10. Las expectativas deben estar asentadas en eventos que no desborden la realidad. Un abrazo. carlos

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  11. Muchas veces tenemos tantas expectativas , esperamos tanto de algo , que jamás va a ser suficiente ... Es algo que debemos trabajar interiormente ♥️

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  12. Many years ago, I realized that People like to be unhappy

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  13. Pues totalmente de acuerdo. Cuando no esperamos nada de nadie no hay decepción alguna.

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  14. Hola, solo debemos hacer aquello que se pueda aquello que esté a nuestro alcance, y estar orgulloso de lo que somos, querernos tal como somos, lo que sí, hay que ser honesto con los demás y con nosotros mismos.

    Un saludo muy cordial y mi gratitud.

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  15. Hola. Estar a la espectativa diria que de personas que no saben respetar o no quieren respetar. Cada ser tiene sus capacidades y nadie es nada para menosprecir con un:
    "tu no sabes nada, por que yo te supero". Esto es de personas que les resulta muy fácil despreciar para que nos sintamos menos. Pero resulta que quien sabe bien quien soy yo. Son los que de verdad me conocen y conocen la empatía.
    Saludos.

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  16. Fazer o melhor que somos capazes em tudo o que o nosso saber alcança, é mais sábio e não nos entristece. Muito reflexivo, o seu texto.
    Uma boa semana com muita saúde.
    Um beijo.

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  17. Criar expectativas é ruim porque a gente sempre aposta em coisas muito altas e se decepciona.
    Adorei o post.
    Boa semana!
    https://www.pamlepletier.com/

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  18. I heartily congratulate you on Easter. May these days bring peace and joy to your home. Nice post.

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  19. What a stunning photo! I agree that managing expectations is important.

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  20. People are never satisfied, in most cases.

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  21. excellent post


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  22. Rajani Rehana:
    Excellent reflection and wisdom you share with us.
    You're right; neither expectation nor presumption.
    Although this would be an ideal state, I am afraid that it is the human condition to live with expectations; first cousin of hope.
    Mental conditioning work is required for that state. It will be good to practice it to achieve peace and fulfillment.
    It is always rich to reach your thought.
    Thank you!
    Namaste.

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  23. Quanto condivido ciò che hai scritto, è verissimo!!!

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  24. Prefiero pisar suelo, aunque no niego que me gusta la aventura, pero por la tierra.
    Besos y gracias por tu apoyo.

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  25. Muy interesante vuestro post, amigos...Esas expectativas debemos controlarlas con la mente y el corazón. A veces el ego, insatisfecho, pide más y más, ansioso de gloria y éxito y se olvida de la paz y el equilibrio interior, fundamentales para seguir adelante con fortaleza y sabiduría.
    Mi abrazo y mi cariño, amigos.

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  26. Hay que tener mucho cuidado con las expectativas y con los sueños, porque pueden volverse contra nosotros.

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  27. Cada uno debe saber calcular sus posibilidades, y no intentar más allá de sus capacidades. Saludos

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  28. Un post muy profundo, creo que la clave esta conocerse a uno mismo y saber de nuestras posibilidades y ser conscientes de lo que somos capaces de hacer. Así tendremos menos posibilidades de fracaso de nosotros mismo y de los demás.
    Un besazo grande y cuídate .

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  29. Buena reflexion te mando un beso.

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  30. Very true and a very good post.

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  31. Com certeza, é bem assim.
    Eu já me decepcionei muitas vezes, mas vai se vivendo e aprendendo!
    Gostei, bjssss.

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  32. É mesmo isso!! .

    Bem interessante.

    Boa Tarde.!

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  33. Bem interessante e curioso!

    Boa noite beijinhos.

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  34. Estupenda entrada, con la cual estoy en total acuerdo.

    Un abrazo.

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  35. Pura verdade! Obrigada pela visita.

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  36. Contrary to the usual "aim high" goal setting advice. But true.

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  37. Very true. I read somewhere you shouldn't expect fellow humans to be like Gods or saints. Humans will be humans. We shouldn't expect too much from everyone.

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  38. So very true! There is a quote that I can't remember exactly, but Einstein said don't try to teach a fish to climb a tree. Not exactly how it is worded but the meaning is very clear. Thank you for these interesting thoughts, and for visiting my blog :)

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  39. No se puede ir mas halla de la realidad personal, cada cual, debe activar aquello que su capacidad alcance.
    Un abrazo

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  40. Excellent reflection, our expectations must be achievable, otherwise frustration will make us very unhappy

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  41. Es tan dificíl encontrar la felicidad, que si en algún momento la sientes...entonces eres muy feliz.
    Un abrazo amiga

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  42. Hello!! So good, thanks for sharing.

    Blessings!!

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  43. Un post interesante que da qué pensar. Es cierto que el nivel de expectativas lo pone cada cual a una altura, a veces demasiado elevado, por eso vienen luego las frustraciones, es mejor tener un nivel medio y así es más fácil de conseguir.
    Bss

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  44. Yes, we always say that, too - don't expect too much, then you won't be disappointed ;-)
    All the best and Happy May, Traude
    https://rostrose.blogspot.com/2022/05/wanderlust-blogparade-der-u30blogger.html

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  45. Yes indeed. wise words. Thanks also for your comment on my blog

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  46. Las expectativas muchas veces no nos conduciran a nada bueno , si no se cumplen por nuestra parte o por parte de otra persona nos llevaran a desengaños que nos haran sufrir
    saludos

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  47. Everyone has expectations, but yeah, don't set the bar too high. :)

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  48. Thank you for your visit and kind words. Also your thoughts here

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  50. Good reflection, I like it and you are very right, the expectations that you put yourself are usually in accordance with your aspirations I think.
    Best regards.

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  51. yes wisdom here. Expectations must meet reality and therefore you need to take the effort to know someone before you can set them

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  52. Hi Rajani! 🙂 Woow! This is a very clever and practical text. I like this sentence the most: "𝐼𝑡 𝑚𝑒𝑎𝑛𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑎𝑦 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑣𝑦 𝑏𝑢𝑟𝑑𝑒𝑛 𝑜𝑓 𝑒𝑥𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑠𝑛𝑎𝑡𝑐ℎ𝑒𝑠 𝑎𝑤𝑎𝑦 𝑡ℎ𝑒 ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑖𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑜𝑓 ℎ𝑢𝑚𝑎𝑛 𝑏𝑒𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠. 𝑊ℎ𝑒𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑜𝑠𝑒 𝑒𝑥𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑓𝑟𝑜𝑚 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑒𝑙𝑠𝑒 𝑜𝑟 𝑓𝑟𝑜𝑚 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓." I like factual and specific thoughts. You write great! I will visit your blog. Regards 🙂🖐️

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  53. Very reflective text.
    We must do what we know well and not create expectations greater than the probabilities of success. Success can only give us joy and satisfaction.

    Abraço
    SOL da Esteva

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  54. The human being is never satisfied with what he has. He always aspires to more and with that goal he sometimes stumbles, falls and gets up again. He is part of progress and evolution, luckily or unfortunately.
    A greeting from Spain :))

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  55. Hope you are doing well!

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  56. Sorry for delating the last comment, I hope you will accept my apology.
    Expectations are a positive thing, just as dreams and ambitions. But when the level is too hight it becomes toxic. Its important to find balance in life.

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  57. More and more the people unjust, it is a capitalism.

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  58. A very good article in the it!

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  59. A sensible reflection.
    Friendly hug.
    Juvenal Nunes

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  60. Your post is nice and interesting.

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  61. Isn't it a surprise when our expectations are met? That's why mine are never very high, they often become reality for me. 🤗

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  62. Quanto menor a expectativa sobre a outra pessoa, menor será a decepção.
    Um texto muito interessante.
    Gostei!

    Tenha uma feliz semana.

    Beijos 🌷

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  63. Happiness is a treasure we are looking for in this time
    (شركة نقل عفش بمكة )

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  64. I am agree, usually high exxpectations means great delusion, best deal is live the moment

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  65. A very timely post we need! I love the photo that goes with it too. Indeed expectations makes one dissatisfied that's why it is best to say a prayer for the intended result and let go! Glad to stop by here today :)
    donyarific.blogspot.com

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  66. Thank you for your kind words 😊

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  67. Muy interesante, da para reflexionar y pensar. Un abrazo y buen fin de semana

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  68. Interessante refletir sobre isso, as expectativas falam mais sobre você do que sobre a própria pessoa, a maioria das pessoas se decepcionam por esperarem demais dos outros, então deveriam diminuir sua expectativas e viver com os pés no chão. Grande abraço querida.

    www.mulhernovaera.com.br

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  69. Um post que faz a gente pensar!

    Ane
    De Outro Mundo
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  70. i totally agree. that's why i stopped having them a long time ago

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  71. How true. Expectations are so often a burden. On ourselves and others.

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  72. Boa noite, Rajani
    Texto reflexivo. Bom mesmo é não criar expectativas em relação aos outros e a nós mesmos, procurar sabedoria para lidar com os acontecimentos. Abraço!

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  73. Totally agree with you!!!

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  74. Wonderful thoughts - expectations certainly do lead to disappointments sometimes. Better to be unexpectedly surprised, as you so beautifully explain. xx

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  75. Só temos que esperar de nós mesmos, e não nos outros, abraços.

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  76. Un post interessante !! Penso che, prima di tutto, dobbiamo conoscere noi stessi e i nostri limiti, altrimenti resteremo delusi. Saluti.

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  77. This is so true! Thanks for sharing! :)

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  78. Cal ser un mateix, sense esperar res de ningú. Aquesta és la realitat de la vida avui dia.

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  79. Having realistic expectations is undeniably the best way to approach life. I'm so happy that I've lived so. I've achieved everything I wanted. The fact that I've achieved a little more than expected? A true bonus!

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  80. Cierto, pero es muy difícil cuando existe un sentimiento no desear reciprocidad.
    Besitos!

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  81. "Don't expect anything impractical from anyone." We totally agree.😊

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  82. Hello!! So good, thanks for sharing.

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  83. I have learned to have zero expectations of certain people in my life. Has lowered my stress levels like crazy.

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  84. Hi dear friend o`mine!
    I hope you r really very well!
    Expectations: ♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸❤¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
    Reality: ¯`·.__.·´¯»

    jajaja! Big Kiss and Hugs!

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  85. Hello Rajani!
    Your post is wonderful full of reflection. I read the posts with great satisfaction.
    Hugs and greetings:)

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